Timothy, LCSW

You're not lazy. You're not broken.

You've just never had ADHD explained to you.

If life feels harder for you than it seems to be for everyone else, there's a reason and there's help.

I'm Timothy Dearhamer, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Tulsa specializing in ADHD, anxiety, depression, and relationships for adults, teens, and couples.

  • In person in south Tulsa or by secure video across Oklahoma 

  • Most major insurance accepted 

  • Weekday & Saturday appointments

Does any of this sound familiar?

You've been called lazy, scattered, or “not living up to your potential”. The truth is you've been working twice as hard as everyone around you just to keep up and it’s exhausting. Not to mention the emotional pain and anxiety you’ve felt when people said such things to you.

You've hyper-focused on YouTube videos on organizing. You’ve tried a dozen new planners and systems. You have a label maker, somewhere, and you still can't find your keys.

You're anxious that you're forgetting something. You often are, and it's exhausting.

You regularly feel judged by people who keep their car clean and can’t go to bed without doing the dishes.

You've wondered whether it's ADHD. You may have even been diagnosed at some point in your life with ADHD or anxiety. But no one has ever explained it in a way that actually makes sense for your life, acknowledges how hard you are working, how defeated you feel, or the emotions that effect your relationships at work, with partners, friends, and family.

None of that means something is wrong with you.

It may mean your brain works differently and has your whole life. It doesn’t mean that you are never going to be a real adult.

Find a clear answer and a plan that works for you.

Most ADHD “tests” are just questionnaires. I offer something more objective and comprehesive then use it to build a plan around how you actually work:

•  Objective ADHD testing with QbCheck a computer-based measure of attention, impulsivity, and activity, not just a self-report form. (

•  A real explanation of what ADHD is and how it shows up in your work, your relationships, and your day-to-day.

•  Practical strategies designed for the way your brain works and the challanges you are expereincing, not generic or one-size fits all approaches.

•  Support and treatment for the anxiety and depression that so often come from years of white-knuckling it.

I can't prescribe medication, but I can help you understand your options so you can decide whether it's worth exploring.

How we can work together

You will be heard.

You can talk about whatever you need to talk about, and I will listen without judgment, without interruption, and without making you prove that your feelings are valid. Your feelings are valid and real.

A safe space.

One of my top goals is to create a judgment-free space where you can talk about what ever you need to talk about. I want you to live your life based on your values and what’s important to you, not what’s important to me.

Life on your terms.

I’m all about being intentional. You can build a full, meaningful life by clarifying what’s important to you, by what matters so you can make intentional choices to live the life you want to live.

And you don't have to do it alone.

I think about therapy as walking with you. I bring training, education, and experience while you bring you so you no longer feel so overwhelmed, lonely, and tired.

Experienced, credentialed care

  • Licensed Clinical Social Worker (Oklahoma) and Licensed Independent Social Worker (Iowa)

  • Master of Social Work, University of Oklahoma 

  • Master of Divinity, Phillips Theological Seminary

  • Member, Open Path Psychotherapy Network, TherapyDen

  • Objective ADHD assessment with QbCheck

  • Verified by Psychology Today 

Speaker, Educator

Presenter/Continuing Education:

  • International Conference on ADHD (2026)

  • Oklahoma Social Work Summit (2025, 2026)

  • Kansas State University Social Work Wildcat Conference (2024, 2026)

  • NASW Indianna & NASW Tennessee Joint Virtual Conference (2026)

  • Zarrow Mental Health Symposium (2026)

Speaker:

Tulsa Community College, Tulsa Public Schools, Owasso Public Schools, and Bixby Publics Schools.

CEU, Workshops:

  • Inside Out: The Emotional Reality of Adult ADHD

  • Calendars, Clutter, & Connection: Making Love Work with ADHD

  • ACT Like You Care About Yourself: ACT for Clinician Well-Being

Proud Member of TherapyDen
  • Most major insurance accepted: UnitedHealthcare, Optum, Blue Cross Blue Shield of Oklahoma, Aetna, HealthChoice, and more.

  • Weekday and Saturday appointments, in person in Tulsa or by secure video anywhere in Oklahoma.

  • LGBTQ+ clients are welcome always, and without judgment.